You’ve finally found the perfect partner, the one you know you want to spend the rest of your life with. Congratulations!

The next step is to think about how you’re going to propose, and, of course, the engagement ring! Traditionally, choosing an engagement ring has been a job just for the guys.

But times have changed, and more and more couples are choosing to shop for an engagement ring together. But which way is best? There are certainly pros and cons for each situation.

Try to get a sense of what your partner would prefer to do. If you’ve talked about marriage before, she’ll probably know that a proposal is in the near future, so you won’t spoil anything by talking about ring shopping.

If your partner has very specific style and tastes in jewelry, it might be best to shop together to make sure you find the ring that best suits her lifestyle and personality. After all, she’s going to wear it and admire it every day. If your partner is more traditional, and wants the big ta-da moment of a ring reveal in the proposal, then shopping on your own is probably your best move.

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There are some great reasons to shop for an engagement ring together.
First of all, you’ll know the answers to two major questions before you even propose:

1. “will she say yes?” and

2. “will she love the ring? 

If she’s excited to go engagement ring shopping with you, you know she’ll say yes when you pop the question!

Knowing that your fiancée loves her ring will also take away at least some of the stress leading up to the proposal. You’ll also ensure that the ring is the correct size so that she can show it off to all her friends and family right after the proposal!

PRO TIP #1: Shopping together for a ring can be romantic and fun. Choose a meaningful day to start shopping, like Valentine’s Day or the anniversary of your first date.

PRO TIP #2: If the element of surprise is really important to you, there is a way that lets you have the best of both worlds- while shopping together she can choose a few rings that she loves and you can make the final decision on your own. You both know that she will be delighted with the ring, and she still gets to be surprised by your choice.

Another option is to propose with a temporary stand-in ring (perhaps a family heirloom?) or a promise ring. (best sellers below!) Once she’s said ‘yes’ you can shop together for an engagement ring that you both love. You could even stage a second proposal with the engagement ring you select together!

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Guys, if you do decide to go the more traditional route and shop for a ring on your own, there are a number of things you’ll need to know. There are thousands of styles of engagement rings to choose from, with differences in stone size and shape (round, princess, oval, cushion, and more!) as well as different colored metals (yellow gold, white gold, rose gold) for the band itself.

Here are a few tips to help you choose an engagement ring that your fiancée will love:

Educate yourself about diamonds. Before you begin your search for the perfect ring, it helps to know the basics about diamonds. Our Diamonds 101 guide will explain everything you need to know about the 4C’s (carat weight, cut, color and clarity).

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Ask for input from her friends and family. Don’t know which diamond shape she prefers or which color metal she likes the best? It is extremely likely that she has talked to her best friends, mom or sister about her dream ring. They will be more than happy to help you out with some advice!


Check out her Pinterest, Facebook and Instagram pages. If she has Pinterest boards dedicated to weddings, there’s a good chance she’s pinned photos of engagement rings she loves. Maybe she follows the Facebook or Instagram pages of her favorite jewelers. This will give you a clue about where to start your shopping!


Examine her current jewelry favorites. Try to sneak a peak at her jewelry collection and pay close attention to the jewelry she wears every day. This will give you tons of insight into her style. Does she typically wear simple, classic pieces or is she more into the flashy and bold? If you share photos of her collection with your jeweler, he/she can guide you towards an engagement ring that best matches her style.

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Browse bridal magazines together. If she wants to have at least some input on the ring design, go through bridal magazines (like The Knot!) and browse online for engagement rings together. There’s nothing like going straight to the source for information about her ring must-haves!



Figure out her ring size. Once you’ve proposed, she’s going to want to show off that sparkler right away. If the ring is too big or too small and has to be re-sized at the jeweler, she could be in for a major disappointment. Use our online ring-sizing guide to figure out what size is most likely to fit.


Make sure you know the jeweler’s return policy. Should the worst happen, and she doesn’t love the engagement ring you’ve chosen, you’ll want to be able to return it to the jeweler for a refund or exchange. Make sure you know exactly what the policy is and how long it lasts, especially if your proposal is still a few months away.


Whether you choose to shop together or alone, we are here to guide you through the entire engagement ring buying process. Visit any of our stores or browse our extensive online engagement ring collection. It’s always available and frequently updated with the newest styles. You can also use our online design feature to create your own custom engagement ring.